“Hey, I want to make $10,000 over the Labor Day weekend.”

It was my business partner calling with an idea for a new online writing course.

Perhaps, one of the hardest things to do in life is finding motivation to move on after you lost someone you love. Losing someone who matters can bring heartache and pain, sleepless night, and not finding the courage to face life. When you’re hurt, you have the tendency to shut yourself down from the outside world. You lose interest in everything. You are no longer excited about waking up in the morning, and you’re feeling tired easily.

Failure hurts. To put it mildly, it’s a painful experience, one that many of us work tirelessly to avoid. Often, its effects can be long-lasting, leaving a mark in our minds, and creating a mental hurdle that can be difficult to overcome in later years.

But failure is also necessary.

Study for two minutes. Check Instagram. Study for two minutes. Browse Netflix. Study for two minutes. Check email. Study for two minutes. Get lost in TikTok indefinitely... Have you ever found yourself completely unmotivated to start studying? Like it is the hardest thing in the world?

Well, I have, multiple times. I can’t even begin to count all these days that I promised myself I would study, but eventually didn’t do anything even remotely close. Countless times staring at a closed book or notes, trying to persuade myself to just start! To be honest, most of these times, I actually failed.

Being lazy is a negative self-attribution people often make when they don’t understand why they aren’t taking action toward something they want to and/or should be doing. It can feel like a battle fighting against yourself to do things you know are in your best interest, but in the given moment you just don’t feel like doing them.